The Southern Charms Fan Box

Hi,

Valerie is my torment - I have chatted with her many times on emails and other sites. Then suddenly she just stops, emails are never responded to and I have sent loads - just to know she is OK.

Updates are so few and far between - I don't know if she is doing this anymore or just part time.

I maen no harm or insult to her - just want to know she is OK and would loud a reply to an email

Any info would be well recieved
Many thanks

Sometimes life gets in the way. Computer breaks. Internet issues. Work regular jobs. Family issues! A lot can happen and our sites are often secrets we hide from friends and family! Photographers often are no longer able to shoot us so we have nothing to post! Sometimes you can email and the email goes to the spam folder as well! So sometimes emailing again it will go thru! I don't personally know her but I looked at her site! I saw she posted 6/4/2013! So I am sure she is ok hun!

Valerie and I had a great friendship.. and then poof..... she just stopped... am concerned we had a very close relationship.... and then nothing.. guessing it wasn't mutual.....

She is probably busy with her personal life. This goes for ALL Charms. I'm kind of getting tired of this forum posts. (Sorry guys, but it's freaking annoying!) ALL Charms have their own personal lives. No matter how close we get to any fans we still have our personal lives which come first. No matter how much we love SC, talking to our fans, being on the board, updating, etc sometimes real life just gets in the way. We aren't being mean, confusing, or anything like that. I'm sure with time she'll come back around. Just be patient.

RosiePieCharm wrote:She is probably busy with her personal life. This goes for ALL Charms. I'm kind of getting tired of this forum posts. (Sorry guys, but it's freaking annoying!) ALL Charms have their own personal lives. No matter how close we get to any fans we still have our personal lives which come first. No matter how much we love SC, talking to our fans, being on the board, updating, etc sometimes real life just gets in the way. We aren't being mean, confusing, or anything like that. I'm sure with time she'll come back around. Just be patient.

Rosie - thank you for saying this!!!! I agree completely.

In addition, do not get upset with the charm for not responding to you. Don't get angry at her, insult her, etc. (not saying that's what you are doing OP, I just know that it has happened to other charms.) This would give her good reason to purposefully ignore you. Just be patient, maybe send a second email if it's been a couple weeks just letting her know that you hope she's doing well or something (but don't spam her lol).

No problem Innes.

I know I've personally gotten annoyed with fans (I wasn't mean to them, but I let them know they were bothering me) when I got many emails in a row (daily or more) asking why I haven't replied when I've been busy. It sucks for both parties.

Scott wrote:Valerie and I had a great friendship.. and then poof..... she just stopped... am concerned we had a very close relationship.... and then nothing.. guessing it wasn't mutual.....

It very likely wasn't. I just take the point of view that the women are here to make money. All contact they have with you is to further that goal. I'm sure certain charms have anecdotes about fans they've gotten to know, etc., but the bottom line is that SC isn't OK Cupid. The women are here to make $$, not friends. And I'm not saying this to sound judgmental, I just think it is healthy to recognize what the site is for what it is. Think of your favorite non-sexual entertainer. They likely enjoy meeting and being nice to fans, but they probably don't want to be best buddies. Its the same way here, just because it is sexual entertainment doesn't change things.

Personally I am putting myself in their shoes. If I was a fan I'd naturally expect the Charm is just busy, not get my feelings hurt, and leave them alone for a while. Probably because that's exactly what I do when my "real life" friends don't reply for a while. But I've never NOT replied before, so I guess I can't really talk. I'm always communicating EVERYTHING that is going on in my life via Twitter and Tumblr, I'm totally out to my fans about everything. But I do see what you are saying. I guess if I wasn't used to that sort of thing it might hurt my feelings. I shouldn't just expect everyone to mind as little as I do!

@Dictums: Actually, quite a few girls on here make friends with their fans and just keep in touch. Money is why we started talking, sure. But that's not always why we keep talking. Though, I'm sure a large number of Charms actually do just reply for money, and I'm not going to bash that. This IS our job. But quite a few girls joined because they want to express themselves, want to feel sexy, it's a hot scene with their partner, etc with the money as just an added bonus. There are over 600 Charms/Gents on SC, you really shouldn't so rudely speak for everyone.

Though I have to say what you said has some truth to it. do NOT expect to be best buddies with a Charm! Not everyone IS looking for your friendship. Keep in mind this IS a job, so a lot of girls are just here to make money. AND THAT IS OKAY.

I just wrote a rather lengthy reply to this topic and it somehow got deleted when I clicked to submit it. I'm not typing all that shit out again so I'll give you the Cliffs Notes version.

@Dictums: You're a skeptic, I get it. In most situations I'm skeptical too. But you don't have to run around shitting in people's Spaghetti-O's. Take it easy Dude. Scott just seems a little concerned and bummed out. Rosie is right, charms and their fans do become friends from time to time. SC is different than other sites and that's why I love it here.

@Rosie: I have to disagree with you a little on this one. I don't think anyone, neither fan nor charm, ever "expects" to become best buddies. Sometimes it just happens. Of course money is likely a driving factor in many instances and there is nothing wrong with that. I just think that there is alot more to the majority of people that are a part of SC. Whether they're a model or a fan. So now that I got that off of my chest, just pm me with some free pics and I'll stop flooding your inbox with annoying e-mails begging for them. Kidding

@Sultry Serena: Your contribution to this discussion has been spot on in my opinion. You and I are on the same wavelength. Maybe you should pm me some free pics too. Again...kidding.

@Blycmike: Actually I have had people email me saying "We'd make great best friends!" Then after a little while of chatting expect me to answer everything RIGHT NOW and when I don't whine that they thought we were "best friends" and how can I blow them off. I've had a few experiences like this. It's... interesting...

Speaking of someone saying this isn't OKCupid though, does any other Charm get those dating style emails? I'm constantly getting emails from guys who are looking for "the love of their lives" or a date or whatever. I tend to point them in the direction of OKC. Haha. It's weird to me. We aren't set up in any way like a dating site. I mean, I get why they do it. But it sucks!

RosiePieCharm wrote:@Blycmike: Actually I have had people email me saying "We'd make great best friends!" Then after a little while of chatting expect me to answer everything RIGHT NOW and when I don't whine that they thought we were "best friends" and how can I blow them off. I've had a few experiences like this. It's... interesting...

Speaking of someone saying this isn't OKCupid though, does any other Charm get those dating style emails? I'm constantly getting emails from guys who are looking for "the love of their lives" or a date or whatever. I tend to point them in the direction of OKC. Haha. It's weird to me. We aren't set up in any way like a dating site. I mean, I get why they do it. But it sucks!

Rosie,

I don't think I articulated my point as well as I could have. Probably because I was pissed after losing an 800 word essay that I had typed prior to sending the abridged version of my post. To be clear, I can't even imagine the e-mails that you and every other charm must get. And I totally understand why that would tick you off. What I was trying to say is that I felt that what you posted made it sound impossible for a charm and a fan to become besties. And I just don't agree with that. Anything is possible.

And I can't believe I didn't get a response on the free pic bit. C'mon, that was funny. I would like to see a pic of Twin Peaks though.

blycmike wrote: But you don't have to run around shitting in people's Spaghetti-O's. Take it easy Dude.

Oh please. We're all adults here, you don't need to be the sheriff.

@blycmike: Lol No worries. I did laugh at the free pix thing, I just forgot to reply to it! Oops!
I attached a picture of me at the lop where Laura's body was found. I had such a fun time on that trip!! <3

@dictums: We are all adults here, so we don't need to be really rude. All he was trying to say is what you were saying was rude, and it isn't appreciated.

Sheriff!

RosiePieCharm wrote:
@dictums: We are all adults here, so we don't need to be really rude.

That is exactly my point. I'm also not going to let you and him moderate me, especially if you think I'm the rude one here. Goodbye.

Actually,m Dictums, I AM a moderator here. If you don't like it you can feel free to stop posting on the board entirely. Have fun trying to find another place full of sex girls, good times, and friends.

@blycmike: LOL <3

Given my past experience with Dick, it actually makes perfect sense that you are a mod.

Can I have one too, Chatty Patty?

I have some fans and Members that I have become very good friends with over the years.
Some with me since I became a charm almost 12 years ago. We still chat on yahoo and in chat room
a few times a week and some almost every day. I can understand how a fan or Member can
wonder what happens to a charm, just like I wonder what happens to fans and Members I have been
in contact with for years. I think its human nature to worry about people and wonder if there ok.
I know I do.
Hugs, Alexus Lin

SultrySerenaSC2 wrote:

blycmike wrote:I just wrote a rather lengthy reply to this topic and it somehow got deleted when I clicked to submit it. I'm not typing all that shit out again so I'll give you the Cliffs Notes version.

@Dictums: You're a skeptic, I get it. In most situations I'm skeptical too. But you don't have to run around shitting in people's Spaghetti-O's. Take it easy Dude. Scott just seems a little concerned and bummed out. Rosie is right, charms and their fans do become friends from time to time. SC is different than other sites and that's why I love it here.

@Rosie: I have to disagree with you a little on this one. I don't think anyone, neither fan nor charm, ever "expects" to become best buddies. Sometimes it just happens. Of course money is likely a driving factor in many instances and there is nothing wrong with that. I just think that there is alot more to the majority of people that are a part of SC. Whether they're a model or a fan. So now that I got that off of my chest, just pm me with some free pics and I'll stop flooding your inbox with annoying e-mails begging for them. Kidding

@Sultry Serena: Your contribution to this discussion has been spot on in my opinion. You and I are on the same wavelength. Maybe you should pm me some free pics too. Again...kidding.

@blycmike..........Doesn't that suck to lose your post before you submit it? I feel your pain, it's happened to me too and I've been told I'm quite the
'chatty patty' so some of my posts are chapters.........
I definitely don't mind being on the same wavelength as you...........oh and.......Check your pm's.............sent you a totally HOT nude fully spread shot.........JK too

And Serena has the last laugh. Love it.