What turns you on? and what turns Alaya on

[alaya sc3]

So my friends, If we ever meet and go on a first date. Here are things that turn on this old fashion girl

a gentleman opening the door and sweet kisses
hand holding
you ordering my dinner for me and pouring my wine
and you setting the mood for the night.

I will take it once we get back to my place and ravage you!
alaya sc3

[DDDVIOAUS]

From the list you have , I can say done Done and DONE.....First rule be attentive, listen, see, and learn, not only on the first date, but in the days or maybe even weeks leading up to it. Find out what she likes, and 9 times out of 10 you don't have to ask, just converse with her...

Bring her a small toke, a bottle of her favorite wine, a book by her favorite author, music by her favorite artist, make a CD of her favorite songs or even her favorite flowers. Things like this they get appreciated...Open doors, close doors, and yes that means getting in and out of the car. Hold her had walking to the restaurant from the car, make constant eye contact. Smile when she smiles, listen as she speaks, comment on what she has said. When walking to the table, allow her to walk first , if you have been stand for a minute or two , touch the small of her back as the waiter leads you both to the table. At the table open her menu for her. Highlight her favorite dishes or specials you know she would like. Guide her, don't lead her. Some ladies like to be ordered for, some do not. Alaya seems to be one who does. Learn to know the difference. I was in a relationship with a beautiful woman for 10 years.. She liked me to order for her, but after about six months, I said why bother, the waiter( male or female) doesn't even see me, they come up, and from that moment on their gaze is glued to your cleveage.

Hold her hand, don't just grab, start slow, many take just a finger and trace a circle or her initials on the back of her hand. Then take two fingers and slowly lift her hand into yours. Run the thumb gently across the fingers... Wasn't a first date, but one NYE, my date go so aroused by the way I was "holding" her hand, she took my hand and leaned in and started to kiss it. Two ladies at a larger table next to ours freaked out....Talk about whatever the ladies wants. Don't talk about yourself, unless the ladies desires you too. Compliment her, note her perfume, her makeup, what she is wearing how it drapes her figure, the colors make her eyes pop...Be invested in who she is....That is the way to turn even a conservative lady on a friendly first date, into a sensual women, who wants to devour you...

[martinae]

For me, the biggest turnon is when a woman is interested in me and wants to get to know me. She would have to listen to me, and respect that there are somethings that I don't want to go into, but be willing to push a little in other areas. As for a first date, I always thought that it had to be more than just dinner. I mean if you already know some one that's great, but if you are really just getting to know some one, there has to be more than just eating across from each other. I've always thought minigolf would be a great place to start, then wind up at dinner. But that's just me.

[alaya sc3]

martinae
I could not agree more listening and communication is so key to any friendship and relationship. Too many people are locked to their phones. I only use mine at work and before bed. The other hours I like face to face communication!

would love to have dinner with you!
Alayasc3

[martinae]

Lol.. when im in Florida again ill let you know! By the way did you get my emails to you? Haven't heard from you... did something get lost in cyberspace?

[martinae]

Ok, I've been thinking about this one alot... and I've come to this rant... It's one thing when I'm out with some one who I've been spending a lot of time with, or we have been talking a lot and it's just eating, or you are both reading something and discussing it later, but if it's on a date or I'm out with friends or something like that... put down the phone. It's my time as well as yours, and I hope that I'm at least as important to you as what ever you can look up on the internet. We have gotten way too attached to our phones and checking in with the world who really aren't hanging on your every word. I have been really happy when I can take a day, weekend or even longer and not touch my phone or computer what so ever. I loved the one rule at the end of the movie Ready Player One, where they closed the Oasis for 2 days a week... we could all learn from that... although that wasn't from the book.

Thanks for reading!