have you tried contacting any charms directly that you would like to, to see if they are closer or will be in your neck of the woods? also you may want to see if there are any bashes coming up, I have heard they are apt if fun. good luck...
Like you I'm just getting started but I can see the benefit of a Girl/Girl update. I'm close to Winston Salem so probably not that far from you. Keep me in mind and maybe we can work something out.